Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Are African-American Women Gold Diggers?
I was having a brief conversation with a magazine publisher that features hip-hop refer to Kanye as a "positive" rap artist. Hmm, well I'm going to have to ask for a test on that one, unless we're going to say positively sexist! I know, I know the song is about an ALLEGED gold digger. There are other songs he's released that are 'good' i.e. positive - but this just goes to show you that everyone has to be checked now and again. Lest there be any confused folks out there about who this alleged gold digger is there's a line in the song where he threatens to "leave you for a white girl". Who else is supposed to be threatened by that?
I wonder if the artists who are considered positive are really the lesser of the more depraved ones which isn't an accurate assessment. The bar has been lowered and like a see-saw tipped far in favor of let's say - NOT POSITIVE - so anything that lifts it up is being considered POSITIVE. I also think the word positive is being used in place of normative because depravity has been allowed to run amuck. Like I've been saying in my music/cultural appropriation series WEEDS have been allowed to flourish and choke the life out of the garden. So the few plants and flowers that still exist are the EXCEPTION when it's the WEEDS that don't belong.
Now let's talk about this scandalous female: Sapphire, Jezebel, Delilah, Lilith, (the predatory lesbian if you want to get into a little film critique as well: see All About Eve) there's always some categorization for a trecherous broad. She was always the exception though and acted alone. The vast majority of women have to be virtuous and unassuming for such trechery to exist!
The problem I see now is that many AA women are being assigned this label, in fact a near total majority by a few who have access to media. I consider this an attack against AA women. We have to look at who has a vested interest in devaluing the cache of all Black women and particularly AAs. The term has begun to be misused and applied to women who expect reciprocity in their relationships. Somehow the idea that a woman who knows her worth and commands full participation from a potential partner is threatening to some (weak) men - and male-identified women.
The gold digger's motivation stems in part from wanting to secure a financial future for herself. Also a value has been assigned to her appeal. Which is in itself a reaction to patriarchy. When does basic survival become greed? We know that women aren't paid the same as men for doing the same work. We know that the motherhood ideal is worshipped but not supported in this capitalistic society. Otherwise healthcare, childcare, doulas, sick leave and maternity/family leave would be covered and enforced under Federal law. If women are expected to make "good" choices in choosing a partner, why can't men be held to the same standard and pick a woman of substance instead of arm candy they can have sex with quickly?
How can a woman be treated unfairly AND demonized for using all assets at her disposal? I'm not condoning lying and thieving and there are truly some who behave horribly, but am I expected to believe this is the majority situation when we see how poorly women fare in this society and around the world? Most men want to control everything and dictate the terms in their favor and some take the maximum while putting in the minimum - if they can get away with it. That's up to us to squash that. Since most women and children in this country live in poverty who are these gold diggers? Are these impossibly attractive women (who are deemed as such due to skin shade racism) and have their pick of men (to compete for by catering to the whims of these men or trying to manipulate a situation to their advantage)? Are these men who are incredibly picky and like to play with as many vaginas as they can but don't want to be a provider and protector?
You know the issue of having unwanted or unplanned children can be easily solved. Men - don't leave birth control up the woman and have a simple medical procedure. Snip snip the end. Oh wait...but some of you don't want to do that! It messes with your "manhood"! Some of you define that by the number of women (or men) you can have sex with, how tough a persona you can project and other superficial things that have NOTHING to do with character development or morals. So I think the bulk of this accusation is total BS. Fatherless children are missing a life rudder that would help guide them better through choppy waters than alone.