tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post4077573557833101410..comments2023-07-16T03:58:42.088-07:00Comments on Acts of Faith In Love and Life: Internet Ike Turners & Obfuscation Tactics To Stop Black Women EmpowermentFaith at Acts of Faith Bloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02150553143062604249noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-16542627898145250292009-09-10T14:43:45.300-07:002009-09-10T14:43:45.300-07:00I think I hear "crickets"...I think I hear "crickets"...Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08241393474934762460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-82174919600606393092009-09-09T20:29:09.784-07:002009-09-09T20:29:09.784-07:00CW: I've figured out how the better utilize my...CW: I've figured out how the better utilize my time by hitting the block button and ignoring certain people. I've realized that I am under no obligation to engage these troubled entities and it's not for me to try to correct anything either. My sanity thanks me.Faith at Acts of Faith Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02150553143062604249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-66610119863184981252009-09-09T13:18:07.596-07:002009-09-09T13:18:07.596-07:00@Faith
Please do not engage these people you spe...@Faith<br /><br /><br />Please do not engage these people you speak of...It will serve no purpose to fight an uphill battle trying to save a unresponsive/hostile audience...bwdbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18157760908669827295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-21508697169599047192009-09-09T07:55:15.616-07:002009-09-09T07:55:15.616-07:00Brother OMi: Hey Summer is meant for leisure time ...Brother OMi: Hey Summer is meant for leisure time with family - read at your own pace. I appreciate your candor and admitting your misogyny because to hear it you're the <i>only one</i>! You bring valuable perspective and balance to this blog and thank goodness my shift in topic hasn't discouraged your participation. <br /><br />Pioneer Valley Woman: Thanks. <br /><br />Donna: It's all good. It's more about being inconvenienced than anything else but I'm going to cut these interactions short and keep it moving.Faith at Acts of Faith Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02150553143062604249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-11961497536294738692009-09-09T07:09:49.322-07:002009-09-09T07:09:49.322-07:00Your safety is more important than blogging. I hav...Your safety is more important than blogging. I have a paranoid condition but want to put it out there.donna darkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17419527183363046513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-76501367533582130522009-09-09T04:34:26.485-07:002009-09-09T04:34:26.485-07:00Courage, Acts of Faith, Courage! But just think a...Courage, Acts of Faith, Courage! But just think about how your story here proves more than anything you could spend ages writing about--actions speak louder than words!PVWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12410310404539584350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-23191788574216076972009-09-09T04:30:59.587-07:002009-09-09T04:30:59.587-07:00This is just one of the few reasons why I got my d...This is just one of the few reasons why I got my daughter a sword, a straight razor, and make sure she knows her forms like the back of her hand.<br /><br />As an avid reader of your blog (i know i missed a few weeks this summer, but cut this brother some slack... lol), I have to say that I enjoy reading it and you are correct, very very few blogs do what you do WHICH IS why you are needed.<br /><br />Don't let any of these knuckleheads sway you or make you rethink your position. CUT THEM NO SLACK! <br /><br />I may not agree with you all the time, but you always bring new points to a discussion that I never thought of before. As a recovering misogynist, I need these view points to help me re evaluate my progress. <br /><br />Thanks, keep up the good work, adn change for no one.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13205384167481897308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-30721719300744090212009-09-08T21:37:02.393-07:002009-09-08T21:37:02.393-07:00donna: We're thinking the grass is so much gre...donna: We're thinking the grass is so much greener for other groups of women. If it makes you feel any better Asian women as a whole are still protected at a much higher rate for the collective. I suppose this is the opposite of the Oppression Olympics, lol.<br /><br />CW: Thanks! Someone asked me if I'd be willing to engage the misogynists in a more controlled environment and I had to consider it for a bit. I don't think there can be a controlled environment though and I also don't see any benefit from it. We don't need to have direct black male participation to discuss our own issues with indoctrination, foul behavior and ultimately our freedom from the Matrix and empowerment.<br /><br />Khadija: That veneer is getting much easier to spot from <b>miles</b> away now.<br /><br />***Thanks Ladies for Your Participation Today***Faith at Acts of Faith Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02150553143062604249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-35103324663610602942009-09-08T20:36:13.342-07:002009-09-08T20:36:13.342-07:00@Khadija & Faith
This behavior also reminds ...@Khadija & Faith <br /><br />This behavior also reminds me of a pre-teen girl who calls everyone to see if a certain boy likes her...But Khadija, you brought a very scary yet realistic element into this...I think to Asia McGowan, Brian Milligan & The Pietrazks when observing this type of behavior...<br /><br /><i>"You said, "As to my interactions, I had one writer go through my followers list on Twitter to contact certain women to get background information on me after I wrote my post criticizing his attack on black women."<br /><br />This is yet more confirmation of my suspicion that for MOST of these suppposedly "decent, professional brothers," the soul of a potentially-dangerous, Negro male street harasser lies just below the surface. "</i>bwdbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18157760908669827295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-58736503582059758972009-09-08T17:21:58.846-07:002009-09-08T17:21:58.846-07:00There's a lot more I can get into regarding th...There's a lot more I can get into regarding the complete lack of critique of Asian men's narrative and Asian women's buying and selling of it. Maybe another time...donna darkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17419527183363046513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-48404916207686690522009-09-08T14:42:40.637-07:002009-09-08T14:42:40.637-07:00@Faith
Excellent post! Do not give these misogyni...@Faith<br /><br />Excellent post! Do not give these misogynists any audience whatsoever...Let them flail their arms and legs like bratty 2yo's...We are not going to stop our activism and reaching out to BW because contrarians "Throw a hissy fit"...<br /><br /><br />@Karen<br /><br />Dissenters who target BWE blogs will most likely <b>NEVER</b> take the initiative to improve any situation...They will focus their energies on attacking and derailment...The so-called "Good BM Blogs" are useless to us...These forums tend to remain silent on issues pertaining to the abuse, exploitation and abandonment of Black women & children...In a productive society the good men will ostracize and deal with the lower elements of that populous...Many will see the 'Chernobyl' all around and consistently deny things are <i>that bad</i>...I suppose it will take every third person who steps out of their home to die a violent death when going to and from work, school, etc...The ignorant will still proclaim that it's not <b>everyone</b> who's dying...Nothing to see here!<br /><br /><br />@Roslyn<br /><br />It galls me when certain men imply that we shouldn't have boundaries...I am also baffled at how much weight (BW especially) but into what these men say online...At times it's downright funny...Thinking to myself <i>"You Must Be A Joke!"</i>...<br /><br />Ref the man who got his friend request ignored: I guess you should have befriended him, apologized and made cupcakes after he call you all of those wonderful names!<br /><br /><br />@Donna<br /><br />Call a 'spade' a spade!<br /><br /><br />@Sistrunkqueen<br /><br />I'm personally am tired of repeating the same thing and am ready to move forward...I will not weigh myself down trying to drag those who don't make any effort to save their own lives....My eyes glaze over when seeing the "Cut him some slack" and "Stick your head in the sand" comments...I really don't care who accuses me of being rude & intolerant...bwdbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18157760908669827295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-17849655184517742742009-09-08T13:49:42.440-07:002009-09-08T13:49:42.440-07:00I meant you are 99.99% right too.
It's not so...I meant you are 99.99% right too.<br /><br />It's not so hard. There are groups interested in fighting sexism/patriarchy and welcome any women and men who are interested in the same. There are women of color in the past who were models fighting racism and sexism. You know many. I'd add Michele Wallace. I chose the Asian community first IRL and online but they were completely hostile to feminism and women's issues that didn't follow the men of color's narrative. Very few Asian women think intersectionally so they toe the Asian men's narrative which is completely wrong from a feminist perspective.donna darkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17419527183363046513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-74900807309621795302009-09-08T13:17:02.508-07:002009-09-08T13:17:02.508-07:00Karen: I'd like to see these normal men take a...Karen: I'd like to see these normal men take a more active role as well to come reign in the bad apples who scream the loudest.<br /><br />Roslyn: You've been offering very astute comments and it is greatly appreciated. I have to figure out how I'm going to engage with others in these public forums and continue my personal career goals, but the work we're all doing is too important to allow for the ITTs to ruin.<br /><br />donna: Thanks. We're gonna find our community of like-minded people.<br /><br />foreverloyal: We are women hear us roar!<br /><br />blackbutterfly: Obviously these few blogs (of which I think I'm one of the more recent and am grateful for those pioneers) have a reach beyond what we imagine.<br /><br />celeste: Thank you for the encouragement. All of your support means a lot and thanks for your participation.Faith at Acts of Faith Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02150553143062604249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-54254412819936655122009-09-08T12:48:10.129-07:002009-09-08T12:48:10.129-07:00Faith
I have read your blog and Khadija's for ...Faith<br />I have read your blog and Khadija's for 6 months now. I don't think I ever commented on a post. I just find that the tone on some of these BWE/IR dating blogs have changed in the last year. I guess that bloggers are getting tired of repeating themselves. Many have gone on with their lives to do bigger things or are taking a hiatus due to the Ikettes who keep commenting. It is so sad that some of these women have to put up with such vile hate from DBRm. I know I get tired of reading comments from pollyannas. They still don't seem to get it. they need to get out of these ghettos and cesspools and get a real life/job/man. All in that order mind you!sistrunkqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14506289216351636262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-82506693716003949762009-09-08T09:33:59.341-07:002009-09-08T09:33:59.341-07:00Faith,
Keep up the good work! You and other BWE ...Faith,<br /><br />Keep up the good work! You and other BWE Bloggers are being attacked because you are truly helping to set bw free. Most of us just lurk but believe me your blog and others like yours are really making a difference in the lives of bw. BTW, bm are always whining cut me some slack, cut me some slack. Well, bw have been cutting them some slack for centuries. But they get furious when we ask when are they going to take up the slack? Real men take up slack. When a woman expresses a need or desire to a real man, he might not say anything right then, but he quickly acts on it, and the next time you encounter the situation or the problem, you can see that the real man has corrected it, (or taken up the slack) as a point of pride to himself. Do we see any correction in the bc? Have bm stepped up to take up the slack? No. Things have gotten worse, which is why so many of us bw are quietly alerting those we care about, and preparing to get outta dodge.<br /><br />Celestegweelyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06314560179235666995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-77157936966441001512009-09-08T09:07:56.624-07:002009-09-08T09:07:56.624-07:00Great post!
It is absolutely frustrating to see ...Great post! <br /><br />It is absolutely frustrating to see so many blogs that are dedicated to the maligning of the Black woman and our image. <br /><br />I think that the most powerful ways we have at our disposal to combat the demeaning attacks on the Black woman in our society today are sites such as yours and others who refuse to let this travesty remain the status quo.Respect Blackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06080358176690027521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-1114042810956631042009-09-08T08:07:09.243-07:002009-09-08T08:07:09.243-07:00More and more black women are asking themselves, R...More and more black women are asking themselves, REALLY asking themselves, "Ain't I a Woman?"<br /><br />The answer comes, "Yes"<br /><br />Apparently, alot of folk are upset about that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-22184648244330245582009-09-08T07:17:24.389-07:002009-09-08T07:17:24.389-07:00Some may say DBR is too strong a word but it's...Some may say DBR is too strong a word but it's apt when people don't want to change. For the last 24 years, I noticed my community did not want to change for women and girls and it looks like it never will. It's scattered politically except of course to help the men.<br /><br />DAMAGED<br /><br />BEYOND<br /><br />REPAIRdonna darkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17419527183363046513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-67890987929764762232009-09-08T07:09:04.292-07:002009-09-08T07:09:04.292-07:00No, you are 99.99% too. I've been reading your...No, you are 99.99% too. I've been reading your blog, commenters and similar blogs for a couple months and there are many women and some men who think like you.donna darkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17419527183363046513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-74191760303872317222009-09-08T06:48:13.986-07:002009-09-08T06:48:13.986-07:00It seems that any black woman daring to establish ...It seems that any black woman daring to establish boundaries is enough to set some of these men off into a rage. In general I don't talk to men online. I don't friend them on Facebook or Twitter either. I'm not interested in engaging with men online in anything other than a public forum. I do this out of respect for my marriage and my husband. No, this is not something my husband makes me do. In fact, I'm pretty sure he knows nothing about it. There are a few exceptions. There are some guys I've know 10+ years that I know are righteous. I also have some male fans that are FB friends, but generally they email me first. Other than that no. <br /><br />When a man tries to friend me on FB, I simply ignore them. One guy tried to friend me a half dozen or more times, then he emailed me to inquire as to why I wouldn't friend him. I told him I didn't friend men on FB. He absolutely went into a deranged fit. He emailed me time and time again sometimes using the most vile language and calling me a white man's whore. I finally managed to get him banned from the forum where I'd originally met him, and blocked from my email. It was absolutely insane. <br /><br />This is not the first encounter of this type I've had. It's ongoing and emblematic of the lack of respect black women receive every day.roslynholcombhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03423350501595717113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689654975245458947.post-53276270076775176842009-09-08T06:32:36.378-07:002009-09-08T06:32:36.378-07:00Faith,
I find it more than unfortunate that so ma...Faith,<br /><br />I find it more than unfortunate that so many of these people prefer to use their energies to attack those who are trying to bring clarity to the dire straits the BC is in and its atrocious impact on the lives of BW and girls versus actually using that energy to improve the situation.<br /><br />Where are all the voices to uplift and take action...? I don't know of any "Good BM" blogs discussing what they need to do to improve the situation or taking responsibilty by behaving like NORMAL MEN are supposed to behave and teaching other BM how to behave. They are silent.<br /><br />There is no denying the facts that the community is imploding on all levels.<br /><br />If we were wrong, the numbers would look very differently but they don't.<br /><br />I commend you for your efforts. <br /><br />There was the atomic or nuclear clock showing as to how far the world was before a nuclear war. <br /><br />For the BC and how close it is before complete anarchy: it is already 5 minutes before 12:00....Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08241393474934762460noreply@blogger.com